Hey, Dad. The question of the day is: Can you receive alimony and/or child support before you actually have a judgment of divorce or paternity? This came up today in a question. The answer is yes, absolutely—you can obtain child support and/or interim alimony. We refer to this as pendente lite support. This means you can get an order from the judge requiring your ex, especially if she’s earning more than you, to pay alimony or child support.

In this particular case, Dad had taken about two years off to focus on being the stay-at-home parent while Mom was off, you know, slaying dragons and climbing the corporate ladder. Now he’s thinking, “Well, I want to get some support; I’m going to set my pride aside.” And I’m like, “Dude, what do you mean set your pride aside? You’ve earned that right by taking care of the family while she was out advancing her career.”

It’s the same argument that women have been using for, oh, I...

Hey, Dad. Did you just get laid out of the blue and feel surprised, thinking, “Oh, things are going really well with my wife”? You might want to check your checking accounts. It’s a good idea to review your credit card balances and statements to see if there’s anything unusual that you weren’t aware of. You could be facing the possibility of getting blindsided by a divorce filing.

This happens more often than you might think. In my experience, if you’ve been having a rocky relationship and intimacy has dried up—sort of like the Sahara Desert—and then you suddenly get intimate, that’s diversion sex, not makeup sex. It’s a tactic to distract you from what’s really going on.

Pay attention to what’s happening. Look at your checking accounts and credit card statements to find out the truth. If you don’t, you could end up blindsided. You’ve been warned.

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In this episode of the MEN NEED TO BE HEARD podcast we discuss what Dads need to do to prepare for a Child Custody Battle, what it's going to cost if they hire a lawyer, and what they can do to represent themselves in family court as a Pro Se litigant or In Pro Per. +

Here's the Show link: https://youtu.be/oDxGEfIENlc?si=80B-OE0maCk0zYKz

This week I spoke with multiple New York Times best selling author Stephen Mansfield about his latest book, Men on Fire - Restoring the Forces that Forge Noble Manhood.

Men in today's society often find themselves isolated and alone after a divorce or breakup and need to restore their social support network and self-esteem. It's crucial for them to set an example for their children, especially so if they are fighting for more parenting time in family court.

In this episode I answer a question that came from Facebook from a dad about how his ex was using his learning disability of dyslexia as a wedge with their children. She was telling the kids he was stupid, which made him concerned he'd lose his kids in court. 

Learn how we deal with that in the Dad's Action Pack. 

In this episode I speak with Sylvio La Valle, he founded the Father's Rights group on Facebook and it's grown to serve men and women across the globe. We chat about how a father can increase his custodial time share, and work through the emotions of a custody case. 

The group is on Facebook at www.facebook.com/groups/forfuturessake 

If you're looking to increase your parenting time and need to represent yourself in court as a Pro Se (In Pro Per) litigant, don't forget to check out the Dad's ACTION Pack at

www.mensfamilylawcenter.com/actionpack 

In this episode of the Men's Family Law podcast, I speak with Craig Perra from TheMindfulHabit.com about his journey through sex addiction and his recovery, into being a voice and champion for those still caught in the web of addiction.

In this episode of the  Men's Family Law Podcast, I discuss what you need to tell a lawyer, and more importantly what you DON'T need to cover until asked. 

If you're going to represent yourself you should probably still meet with a lawyer in your jurisdiction to get a feel for the judge and the courts, plus get a solid review of the law that you want to rely upon. 

In this episode I cover what to do when you've been served with a domestic violence restraining order. This is crucial information that can have long term impact on your child custody, and career, especially if you are going to represent yourself in this case. Many men think they can go in pro per, and they can, but they should do their homework first.